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marital strife
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I am a married mother of 3,2 biological and 1 step son.I don't have the perfect marriage who does but these past 5 months have really been rough.In january my husband and I agreed to split up we both felt we needed space because we forgot how to love one another we argueed constantly and have said hurtful things to each other.I know God and know that he can change things however I never prayed for my husbands soul.We agreed to work on ourselves and then get back together but lately my husband refused to return home he never says he want a divorce but now he replies with "It won't work". What am i to do?I love him and I know I have taken his love for granted we both have.But i feel helpless in this situation I have alway had control over my life but I feel like my life is spinning out of control and it won't stop.we been together for 8 years and married for 3 i'm only 27 and I'm not ready to give up on our marriage.He feel I did'nt  respect him and I didn't allow him to be the man of the house as far as being the disciplinarian to the kids.I'll admit I always contradicted what he said and alway reversed punishment.I just recently finished college and will be making more money than him so he also feels a little intimidated by my success.I'm willing though to work and change the flaws in our marriage and most important in me.He is not in agreement anymore I have prayed and fasted I read my bible more than I ever have.I know God puts obstacles in your life so he can draw you closer to him and this truely has but I constantly have to ask God when is the storm going to be over.My husbands does not know Jesus for himself he's been to church but never been saved. It almost seems impossible and I have to ask God to help me with any unbelief that I have.I'm depressed most days and I have to keep telling myself that I am not the only one going through a seperation.The devil is truely busy in my home but I refuse to let him destroy my marriage.
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prophetessofwar
2006-06-12



Look to the hills from whence cometh your help, and your help cometh from the Lord. That the first scripture that drop in my spirit. You can learn alot from that scripture. Number one the holy spirit will be your teacher. He will teach when to speak and not speak. He will give you the words to say with the spirit of wisdom on them. Also you will bring confusion children when you over step your husbands authority. When he say on thing you tell them another. You have allowed the spirit of confusion to enter your home. Your husband will be won by your lifestyle. How your actions with your children might have hindered him from the race. Also don't nag him and don't keep asking him to come home. I feel in my spirit there's going to be mending in your marriage. Learn to hold your peace and let God fight this one.  
Tennille
2006-06-14



Thank you so much for your response. I really needed that although people keep telling me to quit asking him to come home but I do feel if he loves me like he says he does then why did he ever leave.  God  has been really good to me through this seperation and I know that I have favor. God does things to get your attention. The day before yesterday my husband who is only 30 years old called me saying he had a mild heart attack and has pleurisy of the lungs. You would think he would fall to his knees and come back to his family thinking this is a sign from God. Nope, not him but he has been acting very kind towards me and even picked my son up yesterday(who he had problems disciplining).   I guess I want to see immediate results and I know its going to take time. But some days I feel like giving up on us because it seems so far away.  I've been reading different scriptures regarding husband and wives and being patient and waiting on God. Please if you know of any that I can read I would appreciate it. I know this battle is not mines its the Lord's.
Testuser135
2006-12-26



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