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Title	Marital Distress
Description	My husband and I married young, 6 months after the birth of our first child. We have currently been married for 4 years and together for 6. Shortly after the birth of our second son in Feb. '04, we started having all kinds of problems that were dismissed or ignored. THen in Nov. '05 he took a job in another state so that he could try and better our family life. One night in December we had anargument over the phone and it lead to both of us saying some harmful things to each other and ultimately saying that he didn't want to be bothered with me any more. about a week later he called me back and said he didn't mean what he said and that we were going to work things out. This past March, he invited the kids and I to visit him. Just so happened that we ended up staying where he was. Shortly after getting my oldest son enrolled into his new school, my husband had informed me that during the time we had our argument, he had an affair in which now a child is the result. I agreed to stay with him and work things out with him because I do love him and I feel strongly that God does want us to be together. I also agreed to forgive him because he assured me that whatever he had with this other woman was over and that it should have never happend and that he was sorry for what he had done. Unfortunately, he was still lying to me and she was lead to believe that they were to have a relationship and raise their unborn child together. He keeps denying this to me, but everytime I look up he is runnin to her aid and I can barely get him to spend time with me without his job constantly calling him back to work. This past Friday I took him to work so that I could take care of some things and we saw her walking home from work because they work for the same company. He told me that another mutual friend of ours wanted to talk to me and that he was going to give her a ride home. At first I had no problems with this, but when I went to talk to the friend she informed me that she didnt want to talk to me and it left me believing that he was trying to get rid of me so that he could take care of her. This put in a state distress ounce more and felling that he was still lying to me and her. I informed him of this. Yesterday, he had an attitude with me. Finally it came out that he realized what I said about him lying to her and me. And that he was frustrated and that I was untrustworthy saying that whatever is said between us I go and tell others. I am not completely blameless in this because I did that but have since stopped. Now he is not sure if he wants me around. We talked last night and he said that he didn't want to answer a question that I had because he had to work in the morning (this morning) and that he would talk to me when he got off. I just really want peace of mind at this point and to do what God intends for me to do with my life whether it is stay married or to not be married to this particular person. Right now he is saying that he does not want to be with me and that he is taking me to my family in VA. But I love my husband and I don't want us to split and I do believe we can work things out I have faith in God because I know that all things are possible with Him.
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evangelistrogers 2006-06-08	I can really sympathize with you. I am a newlywed. I have not been married three years yet. My husband left me for one of his old girlfriends last year. He returned when he realized that he did not love her. Since his return he has had another affair with a co-worker. Infidelity rellay hurts. Right now your husband seems to be turn toward this woman, but God can turn your situation around. Just let go and seek the Lord! I have grown closer to the Lord since all of this occured. However, my husband is now saved, filled with the Holy Spirit and preaching the word of God. Trust the Lord. Remember, Christ has not been formed in your husband yet. He is being led by his soul, not his spirit. Do not take it personally.
jeandolleen 2006-06-09	Dear Sharesse, just keep your eyes on the Lord and live the life that the Lord wants you to and I believe that your husband will see Jesus in you. Ask the Lord for wisdom (James 1:5)and when to speak and when not to speak. Sometimes it is hard not to say things when someone hurts us, but I have learned that when someone says something to me and it hurts or makes me mad, I say nothing. I go home and I am really angry but then the Lord helps me to deal with the situation and I don't have to go back and apologize for something that I said in the moment of anger. Sometimes it takes a few weeks before I can say anything to the person but then when the time is right and the Lord lets us know when that is, I can talk and we can work things out. I will be lifting you up in prayer and trusting the Lord to help you no matter what comes your way. Love in Jesus. Jean
Tennille 2006-06-10	Shareese, I can somewhat sympathize with you my husband left me and my family a few months ago not for another women but because we had problems and refused to deal with them we just swept them under the rug to avoid a argument and continued on with our lives.All I can say is turn to God and pray my husband still hasnn't returned home but I do believe God will restore my marriage and he will do the same for yours.
Wynn419 2006-06-20	Ladies take a look in the marital Issues my story is there. It's so much like all of yours. The Sister who's husband is saved today. You give me great reasons to fight on. Talk to me!
kimtruss 2007-05-07	I am 50 years old, i lost my husband in 1998. I just want to encourage you younger ladies. The bible says let the older women teach the younger ones. Remember what the bible says, stand on the word, and believe God's report. God promises that the save wife can help her unsaved husband by her chase conversation and actions. When you are a woman of God, you can go to your father in prayer and rest assure that he hears you. Sometimes praying for your loved one can be a "labour" of love. Pray everyday, bumbard the gates, cry out to your father...press...until you get an answer. Some people say, God don't hear us when we cry out, but my personal belief is that he does. But prayer like our communication with God...is a personal thing. Pray over your homes, cover your environment with the blood of jesus. Decree and Declare every promise from God's word concerning your situation. If you want to remain in your marriage, then "YOU ladies put all your trust IN God" !!! He promises that if your put your trust in Him HE..won't let you down. But remember you are not bond, especially when he broke the contract. God wants his girls to be happy, and loved...after all he is just that kind of Father.
lisa lisa 2007-05-08	Martial Distress: Love is so essential that all of want it and when we think we have found it we donot want to let go....Temptation lurks all around us and if allowed, it will invade our marriages. My prayer is that you will continue to B-E-L-I-E-V-E that our Heaveny Father has already worked it. Just keep the faith!! May you be blessed by one of my favorite passages of scripture: "The Lord will perfect that which concernth me." Say this scripture again and again and again. This is my constant reassurance and I stand on God's word because His wordwill never fail. Love you. Lisa
Linda Zoe Biboussi 2007-12-11	God is so wonderful and if we keep trusting HIM, all things are possible to whom that believe in the word of God. What we should do before getting married is to seek the face of the Lord and let HIM guide us for the choice we are doing. But most of the times we do what our feelings told us to do which is wrong. We end up getting married with the wrong man. Anyway.........Once married we should try our best to keep it. I am confident that if from the beginning we take time to ask the Lord to lead and guide us, we do a wonderful choice and things work as in Heaven. Only the Lord can fix our lives and comfort us. No human can give us peace 100% and we can only trust JESUS. This sound terrible but it is true. When you have a true and honest relationship with the Lord, He will make a way for you. But remember not on your time but on His time. We need to be patient and turn our eyes towards the creator of the universe. Myself my mariage is a catastrophy. I got married with someone very strange but thank you to the Lord, Jesus got me out of it and now my relationship with the Lord is great. And I know that I will never fail again in my life because the spirit of God in me is greater than anything else. Love you darling and be strong - Stick to the Lord and you will be surprised how good and helpful He is.
sweet224 2009-02-06	hi dear i can't say anything because i am single & i am only 22 years old sorry sandy =============================================== "Online Dating-Online Dating
Leslie Marchant 2010-01-07	Well I can agree with everything that has been said.. Definately Trust God and you are on the right track NOTHING IS IMPOSSIABLE WITHOUT HIM! Always remember when believing strongly for your husband and your marriage to work out it is not a battle against flesh and blood but against powers and princeapalitie and powers of darkness ... AND THE BATTLE IS NOT OURS, It is the LORDS AND HE HAS THE VICTORY! As YOU WILL HAVE THE VICTORY TOO... I have been married almost 7yrs and I can tell ya it is no pininc it is something we have to constantly give to the Lord and allow him to work in it ecspecially when we are dealing with unequally yoked circumstances .. ~ Hugs and Love ~ Leslie

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